Will It Matter?

The silence of the morning always makes me think.Makes me think about life. About me. About everyone I know. About everything I do.I love to take the time to reflect on what I’m currently doing and whether it’s worth anything. In the end are my actions and projects right now going to be used by someone? Going to be appreciated by anyone?There can be a big difference between doing only the things that you want to do and only doing things everyone else wants you to do. You may not want to do anything someone tells you do but you might be branded outcast by society. On the flip side, you’d be a complete drone ( like most people, actually) if all you do is what other people tell you to.

Get up

When I’m looking for inspiration on how to get off my ass, grab life by the horns, and give ‘er, I tend to browse through The Middle Finger Project.Ashley’s unique outlook on life is always inspiring and that push I need to get out and live, not just survive.I found some of the rules which she founded her site on and at the very least they will get you amped to get out and, as Charlie says, do epic shit.

1. True living is more than just keeping your heart beating and a roof over your head. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that is “just how life goes.” There’s way more possibilities, and, yes, IT IS WORTH GOING AFTER. Be daring.

2. Stop blowing yourself off; we get so upset when others blow off our ideas and desires, but we have no problem doing it to ourselves. Take your ideas, feelings, wants, wishes, yearns & urges seriously–those are your only true guide. Other people have no idea what’s best for you, so stop seeking their validation. Do what you need to do for you. Be confident.

3. Stop doing everything by the book. It’s time to start drafting your own revised edition. Rules don’t always exist in the name of the greatest good; more often than not, they exist because someone wants to establish or maintain power. And that’s just not a good enough reason. Be inquisitive.

4. Life is a series of choices. You choose every single direction that your life takes. Use it to your advantage. Be deliberate.

5. There will be people out there who won’t support what you’re doing. Who cares. Trust yourself more, trust others less. That includes significant others. Be brave.

6. Figure out what you value, and make the necessary changes to align your life with those values. If you value time more than money, stop working 60 hour work weeks. The only way you’ll get more time, is by doing less. It’s simple math. Be introspective.

7. Speaking of money, IT ISN’T AS IMPORTANT AS WE’RE TAUGHT TO THINK IT IS. Money comes, and money goes, and it provides little value itself until you actually exchange it for something that is valuable to you. So, ask yourself that question. What do you value? That’s where the majority of the money you spend should be going. Be prudent.

8. Having good intentions doesn’t yield results. Get off your rear and make it happen. Be zealous.

9. Life isn’t meant to be taken so seriously. In the scheme of things, if you’re going to be late to work, it doesn’t really matter. If you don’t get an A, it doesn’t really matter. If you’re proven wrong about something, it doesn’t really matter. If your house isn’t as nice as your best friend’s, it doesn’t really matter. Relax, and enjoy the ride. Think big picture, not details. Will this matter in 100 years? Be panoramic.

10. The world is not judging you as much as you think they are. Most people are too wrapped up in themselves to even notice what you’re doing. Drop the pride and have a little fun. Be lighthearted.

11. Perhaps one of the greatest goals we can seek for ourselves is exhilaration. Are you exhilarated by your life? Be stimulated.

12. When making decisions, always ask what’s more important. Thinking about canceling on an invitation to a friend’s baby shower or birthday party because you have too much work to do? Get your head out of your ass. Your friend is more important; work can always be done later. Nothing is that urgent. Relationships, however, are your foundation and you’d be lost without other human connections, so value them. And show it. Be thoughtful.

13. You don’t just need to love yourself; you need to respect yourself. You’ll garner that respect by accomplishing things you’ve set out to do. Be relentless.

14. Being content with your life and being proud to call it yours are two different things. Strive for the latter. Be courageous.

15. Last but not least, wine should be drank with meals. Preferably Argentinian Malbec. It’s freaking delicious. Be delighted.

The rules can all be found on Ashley’s Live Alive, Not Just a Life post.

Wear Sunscreen

If you need any more inspiration, take a blast from the past with the sunscreen song. Or the 10 year tribute to it by Ki’une on PickupDance.“Enjoy your body, use it every way you can.”

In the end

But really, in the end, when it has all boiled down and all you’re left with is a whithered old body not capable of much except reflecting on the past, will you reflect on a life of boredom, regret and laziness?Or will you cry tears of triumph every time you think of your amazing, full, extraordinary life of passion and adventure?You choose.

10 thoughts on “Will It Matter?”

  1. Oh, and it just hit me. Your closing comment reminds me of my favorite quote:Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.Mark Twain

  2. Every morning I wake up thinking, “Will I do something meaningful and purposeful today?” “Will I move forward in the direction of my dreams?” “Will I help others in some way?”And the truth is there are days when it just seems like my day is one long string of errands, putting out fires, making phone calls to fix a problem that shouldn’t have been there in the first place. I make a little progress but it seems so miniscule.Then my husband will say, “Let’s go to the gym together,” or “Let’s go for a walk,” or “What are you fixing for dinner?” On one hand I want to scream because I have so much I need to do. But then I step back for a second and say, “Imagine that. My husband wants to spend time with me. That’s a GOOD thing.”Then the next day I start all over. Meaningful. Purposeful. Moving forward. Helping others. And each day I make little teensy, baby steps forward. Each day stringing into the next week, month, year.I’ve done some very cool things. I’m a published author with a book read in 15 countries and sold thousands of copies. But passions shift – not 180 degrees – but you realize new things are important. That’s why I’m shifting to re-design my life into an excellent adventure. I’m crushing it – but trying to remember that it’s also about the journey.

  3. Love your comment Denise. It’s so tough to keep your focus on what really matters through all the little meaningless things you “have” to do.You have done some really awesome stuff! I find it always helps to remind yourself of what you have accomplished and not just focusing on the mountain ranges of tasks ahead of you.When you reach the top of any of those mountains though and, while it was a lot of hard work, the view is amazing.

  4. Thanks Ross. Today’s been a day of doing. I got a FlipCam (I’m rarely one of the “cool kids”) and learning to upload video. Which meant I was up way late last night. Finally get to 4:00 pm today and realized – I can go to a networking mixer tonight and maybe meet a prospective client. Or, work on making online connections with folks like yourself, my Facebook tribe, etc.Walk in the door, my husband says, “There’s a funny new DVD out with Chris Rock and Tracey Morgan. If I can get it – do you want to watch it tonight? We’ll probably laugh our fool heads off.”I know he helps keep me sane and balanced. I’m 52, he’s 65 and a lot of our tomorrows were yesterday. He’s laid back and healthy and I’m Type A. But with 12 years on me he’ll probably still go first someday. I sure don’t want to reach the end someday – thinking how many times I said, “No, I can’t, hon. I gotta work.”

    • That’s great to hear Denise. I know I’m guilty of spending some time on work that I could be spending with friends and family. It’s a tough balance though. I’m hoping to spend more time now on work so I can spend more time later with family. I guess in the end it might just even out and it won’t even matter. The goal is to put in a bit more work now and have tons of time to spend with those who matter later on in life. I’m young now so I guess I can afford to do that though.

  5. Hi Ross,I like this one: Be relentless. I’ve been focusing lately on my endurance and taking things to the next level. I’ve realized in the past that I’ve been more of a “sprint” runner, and it is time to learn how to be relentless and go in for the long haul. This means slowing down and doing things that will create meaning down the road, but can feel scary at times!! Thanks for the reminder :0)

  6. Hey Brooke!That’s been a tough one for me as well. I’m not sure if I just get bored of it or if it’s been drilled into me that projects last for 4 months and then they’re done and it’s time to move on to the next one(from school), but I love to get things started but have trouble following through. I feel like I’m missing out on other things because I’m still working on things I’ve started a while ago. That’s the only way you can make something really worthwhile grow though.

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